One Thing I Did to Manifest My Beloved.

This is ONE step I took to call in the man of my dreams. You get to create your own manifestation ritual and you can use this as a guide. Who is the The Man I Desire? He’s someone I can trust to open me further to my own depths and while deepening his own inner … Continue reading One Thing I Did to Manifest My Beloved.

Full Moon: Healing the Feminine

As we are moving into this New Moon, I'm reflecting on opportunities for new growth, self love, accepting responsibility, and the life I've designed. In this, I begin to see barriers that are standing in my way of me feeling fully embodied, empowered and in my place of wisdom and truth.   Feminine Sexuality Feminine … Continue reading Full Moon: Healing the Feminine

On the Job Training: Transferrable Skills

Being a stripper in the clubs, I've been gifted the opportunity to hold space for strangers as they process emotions that include pain, grief, sorrow, despair, guilt, shame, sadness that expresses in a variety of ways. The most important thing is that I listen. I listen with compassion and without the intent to resolve their … Continue reading On the Job Training: Transferrable Skills

Concomitant Trauma At Work

Causing Trauma I take extreme responsibility for my life. Although other people are part of this experience, I take charge in what it is that I have power to do and say. Working in the strip club has allowed me the opportunity to do the work to find healing and empowerment. This idea of causing … Continue reading Concomitant Trauma At Work

10 Important Inclinations

Going into dancing, I didn’t know who I was. I thought I knew, but really, I didn’t. I let outside events frustrate me, hurt me, and ultimately change me. Now, every day I focus on being me. The me that I know to be true.  1. Loving and supportive 2. Sensitive/empathetic towards others 3. Compassionate … Continue reading 10 Important Inclinations

Universal Truth

From the age of 9, I can remember being looked at as a sexual creature. I was hit on by older men, assuming I was at least 18. Cat calls bombarded me as I'd walk down the street in my saggy pants and beanie-chosen to avoid the hoots and hollers. When I was 12 years old, I … Continue reading Universal Truth

Freedom

It’s so wild going back and reading my old blogs and seeing how much I’ve changed. Knowing where I was mentally in that moment writing those words; living in a wavering place of comparison, fear, and confusion. I’m so grateful for the process I’ve gone through to bring me to this very moment of clarity … Continue reading Freedom

Purpose is Pleasure

Is it my purpose to awaken others through this realm of sexuality? This has been my experience that I cannot deny because it has been my existence. I have been offering space to men for their healing journeys through my time with them in the clubs. I have offered loving kindness and have found deep … Continue reading Purpose is Pleasure

The Sexist In Me Is The Sexist In You

For years I have owned the "other's" image of myself that I have created. I'm recognizing more fully how much I actually judge myself. In this conversation with sex and my desire to fully acknowledge my trauma that revolves around it to fully embody a true nurturing human that has tended to her wounds, I … Continue reading The Sexist In Me Is The Sexist In You